Finding Joy In Your Story
Sitting here at my desk today, with the only sounds
being the whir of the air conditioner and the occasional barking of a dog, I
listened to a podcast, taking notes as I went. I flicked through old articles
and read through devotionals in my inbox that I hadn’t had a chance to read, jumping
from one thing to the next, not really able to focus on anything.
Picking up my phone, I began to scroll through my
photos, and I came across a quote I had saved that seemed to jump right off the
page at me, for want of a better term.
“Sometimes
you have to let go of the picture of what you thought life would be like and
learn to find joy in the story you are actually living.”
What a challenge!
Some days, life is just plain hard. Days roll into
weeks and weeks roll into months and we feel like the roller coaster we’re on
will never end, the struggles will never cease, and in the process, we lose our
joy.
Sometimes in
life, circumstances happen that throw our plans into disarray. We hit a bump in
the road that sends us off the course we had planned. Unexpected things
happen and before we know it, we wake up one day, realizing that this is not
the life we planned and not the life we wanted.
We had a totally
different picture in mind.
And
suddenly, our joy is gone. Our happiness has been stolen away and we are left
feeling discontent, disgruntled, joyless, and downright miserable.
The picture of what we thought life would look like is
vastly different than the reality.
We only have
one life to live and although it may not be the life we had planned and
although there are twists and turns in the road that are unexpected, and with
each new season, a new challenge arises, we have to choose to love the life
we’ve been given and make the most of the God-given opportunities he brings
across our path.
Loving life
is a choice, and it should never be determined by your circumstances. The life
you’re living today is the life God has given you, for this particular season,
and the reason you’ve lost your joy is because of your attitude. You’ve chosen
to hang on to your picture of what life should look like, instead of finding
joy in the life you’ve been given.
Your peace,
your joy, and your contentment depend on the choices you make.
I want to remind you that although
you can’t choose the life circumstances you go through, you can choose HOW you
go through them.
Are you struggling with the circumstances you find
yourself in at this particular point in time? Are you fighting against the
God-given difficulties in your life and feeling like you’ve reached the end of
your patience level?
I feel like I’m not the only one in this season at
present. Maybe I’m a little more vocal about it and I harp on it more than
others, but I know I’m not the only one that has found myself in circumstances
beyond my control, fidgeting and hopping from one foot to the other, battling
the desire to take things into my own hands and fix it even though I have no
idea how I would do it.
One of my favourite authors once said:
“Usually, the
only aspect we can change about our circumstances is our outlook. So, we must
adjust our attitudes, alter our actions, and put on a cloak of contentment in
order to weather life’s circumstantial storms” Karen Ehman
We have to consciously make a choice to take off the
cloak of discontentment and misery, and grab the garment of contentment, (being
satisfied to the point that we are no longer disturbed or disquieted in our
souls), wrap it around us and choose joy, knowing that God is in control, and that
he will do what is best, and despite the storm raging around us, he will bring
the peace that we need.
I could very well be preaching to the choir here, as
the saying goes, but I know that this particular choir member needs this
reminder today, and if I need it, then I’m sure someone else does too!
So how do we learn to find joy in the story we’re
living right now? In this season. At this time in history. With the people we
are surrounded with. In the house we live in. With the job we have.
How do we find joy? We have to
let go.
We have to let go of the picture we have painted in
our minds, lay down the brush, tip out the murky water jar, wipe the paint smudges
off our faces and hands, and submissively, and humbly, give our concerns to
God.
It’s not an easy task, deciding to find joy in your
current story.
It’s hard to look around and not feel discontentment
rising inside. It’s hard to let go of all the ideas you had and the plans you
had made and choose to find joy and happiness in what you’ve been given and how
God has chosen to write the script of your life.
I confess that one of my biggest problems is fear. Fear
of the future. Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. And believing the lie that
God is not in control and needs help with the planning.
I have begun to realise over the past couple of weeks,
that my days will be miserable unless I choose to change my attitude and how I see
the new picture that God has painted.
I have to choose joy. I have to diligently spend my days,
looking for the little blessings God sends, looking for the roses amongst the
thorns.
I can’t control everything. I don’t know what the
future holds and my plans are fraught with mistakes and mess ups. Only God can
organize them perfectly.
Why am I not spending every minute of my day finding
joy in my new story? God’s story. God’s plans.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the
thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of
evil, to give you an expected end.
God’s plans
for you and for me are good, and he has our best interests at heart. He loves us
with an everlasting love. He knows our deepest longings, he hears our cries, he
knows the dreams and desires of our hearts and he longs for us to live a joyful,
victorious life.
But joy doesn’t
come automatically. It requires some effort on our part. We have to make a
choice.
So, how do we
do this? How do we go from fear to faith and find the joy we have lost?
Now,
speaking from experience, I am no expert at this. I am continually learning and
failing and learning the lesson again. God is longsuffering with me of which I
am very thankful.
I am constantly reminding myself that I have to do
what I can and leave God the rest. I have to learn not to stress about all I
can’t do and the things beyond my control.
God is big enough to handle it.
It really is pointless to waste all my energies and
brainpower on the things I can’t change. I need to drop it and move on, seeking
the Lord as I go.
I know that if my husband was reading this, he’d be
saying, “that’s exactly what I’ve been trying to tell you all along!” Praise
God my darling husband has a steadying effect on me, and it never ceases to
amaze me that he has the ability to have freedom over worry and fear. He doesn’t
let stress cripple him. I would do well to learn by his example, letting go of
fear and chasing joy and contentment.
I’m a work in progress. As we all are.
If I can encourage you today, to let go of your idea
of what life should look like and embrace joyfully, the life God has chosen to
give you today, you will find that your days, although they are often long and
hard, will be more restful as you stop struggling and fighting against what God
is doing, and submit to his will, going with his flow, not trying to swim
against it.
He really is in control. He really is a good Father. He
really does love you. He really does want you to rekindle the joy you once had
and take pleasure in the blessings he sends.
John 10:10b
...I am come that they might have
life, and that they might have it more abundantly.