Tuesday 27 September 2022

 True Christian Fellowship

(This blog post is taken from a recent Ladies Bible Study lesson I gave here in Katherine. If it doesn't flow like usual, it's because I couldn't write in all the little extras and rabbit trails I took. It is long, so grab a cup of tea, your Bible, a teachable spirit, a heart excited to learn and read on. God Bless xx)

FELLOWSHIP- This word gets thrown around a lot in Christian circles as we have ‘fellowship’ lunches and ‘fellowship’ meetings, ‘fellowship’ greetings in a church service. I think sometimes we use the word a bit too flippantly without really grasping the true meaning of the word.

The word fellowship, in the Greek, is the word ‘koinonia’ which by definition is communion, joint participation, sharing, having something in common.

The root of this word is Koinos. There are 2 main ideas with this word:

a. “To share together and take part together” in the sense of partnership or participation, and

 b. “to share with”, in the sense of giving to others.

True Christian fellowship involves getting together for spiritual purposes, for sharing needs, for prayer, for discussing and sharing the Word, for encouraging, for comforting and for edifying one another. (Group Bible studies, prayer meetings etc)

These are all important aspects of Christian fellowship and areas that are often lacking in the church today, but even this does not fully comprehend the full meaning of ‘fellowship’ in the New Testament.

In Acts 2:42, we read of the new believers fellowshipping.

Acts 2:42 And they continued stedfastly in the apostles' doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers.

Acts 2:43-44 KJV - And fear came upon every soul: and many wonders and signs were done by the apostles. And all that believed were together, and had all things common;

Notice that it says they continued stedfastly in fellowship. Stedfastly means to persevere, to be constantly diligent, to adhere closely to.

So, they devoted themselves not only to the apostles teaching but also to fellowship. And in breaking of bread (so there’s the Baptist lunches!) But they also devoted themselves to prayer. There were some serious prayer meetings going on with these new converts. Fellowship was a priority to these early Christians.

So, let’s look at what fellowship means in our everyday language.

According to the Websters dictionary, fellowship means:

1.    Being a part of a group, a body of people (so, there is our church. A body of people. A group)

2.    It means having or sharing with others certain things in common such as interest, goals, feelings, beliefs, activities, labour, privileges and responsibilities, experiences and concerns.

3.    It can also mean a partnership that involves working together and caring for one another as a company of people, like a company of soldiers or members of a family.

And I think this is where the rubber hits the road. As Christians and fellow believers, we are in a partnership working together towards a common goal, that of reaching the lost with the gospel. We are to be a family. Looking out for one another, caring for one another, exhorting, serving, loving one another.

As we see in the 2nd definition of fellowship, we are drawn together because of common interests or experiences or activities. There will be people in your circle of Christian friends who you are drawn to because of your commonalities. They like the things you like. They have experienced similar things in life as you. But then there are others that you have nothing in common with. You’re different as chalk and cheese. Or so you think!

Fellowship is firstly a relationship.

In the New Testament, the first thing they had in common was a relationship with Christ. And in a church, it is the one major thing we have in common. Despite all our differences, we have in common our salvation. We are a family because of being a child of God.

Ephesians 4:2-6 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling; One Lord, one faith, one baptism, One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.

Koinonia or fellowship, was an important word to the apostles and their new converts. It was never used in a secular sense. It always had a spiritual significance. The idea of earthly fellowship, as we seem to know and define it, founded only upon common interests was foreign to the apostles.

Fellowship is firstly a sharing together because of our relationship with God. Fellowship is first and foremost a relationship, rather than an activity. Any activity that follows should come out of that relationship.

I think sometimes we get it backwards. We are drawn to someone because of common interests and we ‘fellowship’ with them and then one day we realise that we have a relationship with Christ in common that really should have been at the forefront. The relationship with Christ should have been the glue, not just the common interests.

Now there is nothing wrong with getting together with friends and sharing together, but when we meet together in the name of fellowship and there is no mention of God’s goodness, then we really shouldn’t call it fellowship.

Yes, we are Christians, so we are a part of God’s family, but if we are not sharing what God has done in our lives and using our time to build each other up in our Christian walk, then we are just having a friendly get together, not a time of fellowship.

1 John 1:3 That which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ.

1 John 1:7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.

Our fellowship is with the Father, and with each other.

In Philippians 1, we read a letter from Paul and Timothy to the believers at Philippi.

Philippians 1:3-6 I thank my God upon every remembrance of you, Always in every prayer of mine for you all making request with joy, For your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now; Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: 

Here we see mentioned the words ‘fellowship in the gospel’. In this case the fellowship is distinctly connected with the gospel and Paul and Timothy are thanking the Philippians for their fellowship in the gospel. But what does that really mean? Fellowship in the gospel?

How are we as Christians to enjoy this kind of fellowship?

Firstly, we can’t have fellowship in the gospel unless we have Christ in common. We also have to be on the same page when it comes to our goal of seeing others come to Christ and preaching the gospel.

To have true fellowship, we are to be comrades, working together. Fellowship requires participation. It requires our time our energy and our resources. Each person bringing to the table what God has enabled them to do.

We are to pray together, to suffer together, to share together. Everyone carrying the load together by doing their specific jobs in order to get the gospel message of Jesus Christ out to the lost world.

Philippians 1:3-6 I thank my God upon every remembrance of you, Always in every prayer of mine for you all making request with joy, For your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now; Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: 

Fellowship begins with God’s love,

 overflows from God’s love, 

is centred on God’s love and expresses God’s love.


Fellowship in the gospel expresses itself in love. 

Philippians 1:7-8 Even as it is meet for me to think this of you all, because I have you in my heart; inasmuch as both in my bonds, and in the defence and confirmation of the gospel, ye all are partakers of my grace. For God is my record, how greatly I long after you all in the bowels of Jesus Christ.

Notice here in these verses that Paul said that he had these Christians in his heart. Not just in his head or on his lips, but in his heart. Sometimes we lack this simple expression of the fellowship of the gospel. Love. We are often critical of one another and judgemental and harsh. But God commands us to love.

John 13:34-35 A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

How often do we truly love the brethren? And as Christ loved? The Bible clearly states that by our love shall all men know that we are Christ’s disciples. So, when we have love and we show this in our fellowship, we are obeying God’s commands. And this means loving the unlovely. Those Christian sisters and brothers who we find it a struggle to be around. The world is looking on and watching how we treat each other.

One of the most well-known passages of scripture on love is found in 1 Corinthians.

1 Corinthians 13:1-8 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

Fellowship in the gospel also expresses itself in thanksgiving. Paul tells the Philippians that he is thankful for them.  All of them. Despite his rebuke to a couple of women in the church that were out of sorts, he was still thankful for them. (See Phil 4:2)

It’s hard sometimes to be thankful for certain people in the church or other Christians we know casually. There’s a lot of prickly people out there and a large percentage of them are Christians! But being thankful for other brothers and sisters in the Lord helps save us from wrong attitudes like jealousy, resentment, irritation. It’s hard to thank God for someone, sincerely, and be resentful in the same breath. Love the unlovely. God does!

Fellowship in the gospel expresses itself in ministry. What is the ministry to which we are all called? To advance the gospel. 

Philippians 1:12 But I would ye should understand, brethren, that the things which happened unto me have fallen out rather unto the furtherance of the gospel;

When we live our Christian life according to the Bible, we advance the gospel through our testimony. When people around us see our reactions to circumstances that come into our lives, they are either drawn to or drawn away from God. Paul was tested and tried and yet his reactions glorified God and advanced the gospel.

But it’s not only our lives and how we live, it’s also our lips and what we say.

Notice the words “speak” and “preach” in these verses.

Philippians 1:14-18 And many of the brethren in the Lord, waxing confident by my bonds, are much more bold to speak the word without fear. Some indeed preach Christ even of envy and strife; and some also of good will: The one preach Christ of contention, not sincerely, supposing to add affliction to my bonds: But the other of love, knowing that I am set for the defence of the gospel.What then? notwithstanding, every way, whether in pretence, or in truth, Christ is preached; and I therein do rejoice, yea, and will rejoice.

When we testify to others of God’s saving grace, we advance the gospel. By what we say, we can be a testimony and a shining light in a dark world.

And how is it possible to show the fellowship of the gospel? Through the help we are given by the Holy Spirit. To work together for God’s glory, we need the Lord’s help. We are sinful creatures, and we don’t love others as we should, but in order for us to truly fellowship with each other, we need the Holy Spirit working in our lives.

I love that fellowship has no age barrier. Age doesn’t matter in the body of Christ. We are able to fellowship with believers of any age and any season of life. Fellowship can also be enjoyed with people of different cultures. It’s amazing how you can sit through a service in a language you can’t understand, yet still feel a sweet spirit and have fellowship with the believers. It’s Christ we have in common. Our relationship with Christ is what joins us together.

I mentioned that fellowship is firstly a relationship. A relationship with Christ. Fellowship is also a partnership. The Greek word also means to share together in the sense of a partnership. We are automatically co-partners in God’s work here on earth.

” Relationship describes what we are: a community of people bound together by our common life and the blessings that we share together through our relationship with Christ.”

“Partnership describes how we are related to each other in that relationship: we are partners in a calling in which we are to work together in a common purpose to obtain common objectives for the glory of God and the gospel of Jesus Christ”

Look at these verses in relation to fellowship being a partnership:

Philippians 1:27 Only let your conversation be as it becometh the gospel of Christ: that whether I come and see you, or else be absent, I may hear of your affairs, that ye stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel;

Philippians 2:1-4 If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

Acts 2:46 And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart,

The partnership these Christians had, saw them continuing daily of one accord, which translated, means unanimously or of one mind. They had one mind, one spirit. Wouldn’t that be great if people could say that of our churches? Oh, that we could be of one accord and of one mind.

We have to develop the art of communication. We need to be able to share our burdens and also our passions and dreams with other believers and we need to learn to listen to what others are saying so we can minister to each other. We also need to be able to communicate on a spiritual level.

Sure, it’s great to have common interests but we really need to communicate about spiritual things and reach a deeper level of fellowship built on our relationship with Christ.

In order for us to have true Christian fellowship, we need to be first devoted to God’s Word and to his will and then we need to be devoted to caring for one another.  We need to be willing to share with each other what we have learned and what Christ means to us.

Fellowship is firstly vertical. Our relationship with Christ. And then it is horizontal. Our relationship with others. We need to strive towards developing a deeper level of fellowship that goes beyond earthly commonalities and reaches upwards towards Christ then outwards to our brethren.

 

“Has it ever occurred to you that one hundred pianos all tuned to the same tuning fork are automatically tuned to each other? They are of one accord by being tuned, not to each other, but to another standard to which each one must individually bow. So, one hundred worshipers meeting together, each one looking away to Christ, are in heart nearer to each other than they could possibly be, were they to become 'unity' conscious and turn their eyes away from God to strive for closer fellowship.” A.W.Tozer

 

 


Thursday 22 September 2022

Look for God in Everything


  

In recent weeks, I have struggled with ongoing sickness, financial uncertainty, confusion, frustration and a never-ending list of questions to the Lord that seem to go unheard and unanswered.

My voice cries out, “God, where are you?”. “Where are you in all this mess?”

As I’ve fought against fear and doubt, consciously deciding each and every day to trust the Lord and wait on him, the questions still arise, and the overwhelming thoughts hang overhead.

What do we do when we can’t see God in our situation? How do we face each day feeling like God is not listening or aware of our needs?

We go to the Word of God, and we get down on our knees, humbly and sincerely asking him to reveal himself to us.

We search the scriptures looking for comfort and help, and we ask God to speak to us and to speak to our fears and our confusion. We ask for his peace and for his wisdom.

If we truly believe that Jesus is the Son of God and that he is the Creator, sustainer, life-giver, redeemer and Saviour, then we know, that God is there. He is everywhere. We don’t need to ask, “where are you?” because he is right there.

He is the Alpha and Omega. The beginning and the end. He’s not going anywhere. And we can’t hide from him. As the Psalmist so beautifully puts it:

Psalm 139:7-10 - Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy presence? If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there. If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea; Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me.

What I have to remind myself of continually, is that I need to see God in everything. I need to look for God’s hand in every circumstance. I need to remember that he is always there and because of this, he has his hand in and on everything. He is in control, and he is aware of everything I’m going through.

God is up on the mountaintops, and he is down in the valleys. God is in the trying circumstances and in the exciting, happy moments. He is moving and working behind the scenes and although I may not see evidence of his hand, I can have faith that he is there.

I need to look for God’s hand in every detail of each and every day.

Just as we can see his hand in creation, as we gaze upon a beautiful sunset, or marvel at the intricacies of a delicate flower, or feel the wind on our skin as we breathe in an ocean breeze as it washes over our feet, just as we see his hand upon creation, we can have the calm assurance that his hand is upon our lives and the situations we find ourselves in.

Instead of asking, “Where are you, God?”, I should be asking, “What is it you want to teach me in this?”

I think that if I can only learn to see God’s hand in every circumstance, if I purposely look for his presence in my daily life, if I can trust in what I know of him, then, I can learn to be content and accept the crosses (as I so often see them), that he places in my life.

Philippians 4:11 KJV - Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.

Contentment doesn’t come naturally; it has to be learned. It’s something we will struggle with until we reach heaven. It is a day by day, submitting to God and trusting him with what he sends into our lives, seeing him in all our circumstances, believing that everything comes from his hand and has a purpose.

If I choose to see God in my sickness, my financial difficulty, my uncertainty, then I will defeat fear and doubt and live in faith, believing and trusting him, knowing that he walks beside me each step of the way, lovingly guiding me and leading me to walk in paths of righteousness and think good thoughts. His ways are perfect. His thoughts are higher.

Psalm 18:30 KJV - As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.

Seeing God in everything adds peace and joy to your life. It releases you from worry and fear. If you understand that God is in every situation, no matter how you see it, whether good or bad, you will have peace that he has it all under control and he is aware of the needs and will work things out.

And with that peace, you will begin to feel joy rise up in your soul. You will be able to rejoice and praise him for his goodness.

Psalm 5:11 KJV - But let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee.

Psalm 9:2 KJV - I will be glad and rejoice in thee: I will sing praise to thy name, O thou most High.

Philippians 4:4 KJV - Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.

One of my favourite sayings that I have repeated to myself many a time is this:

“When you can’t trace his hand, trust his heart”

We can’t always see God’s hand working in our lives, and sometimes it seems like he is unconcerned or unaware. But he is always working and always aware. He is El Roi, the God who sees (Genesis 16). He knows your heartache, he sees each tear, he understands.

We may not be able to trace his hand, but we can ALWAYS trust his heart.

Choose to see God’s hand in everything and watch him work contentment and peace and joy into your life as you humbly submit to him and joyfully trust and obey him.

I was recently reminded of a song I hadn’t heard for many years, and it was such a blessing and comfort to my soul.

Trust the God who sees and look for him in everything.


Trust His Heart

 

All things work for our good
Though sometimes we can't
See how they could
Struggles that break our hearts in two
Sometimes blind us to the truth

 

Our Father knows what's best for us
His ways are not our own
So when your pathway grows dim
And you just can't see Him,
Remember you're never alone

 

God is too wise to be mistaken
God is too good to be unkind
So when you don't understand
When don't see His plan
When you can't trace His hand
Trust His Heart

 

He sees the master plan
He holds the future in His hand,
So don't live as those who have no hope,
All our hope is found in Him.

 

We see the present clearly
But He sees the first and last
And like a tapestry He's weaving you and me,
To someday be just like Him

 

God is too wise to be mistaken
God is too good to be unkind
So when you don't understand
When don't see His plan
When you can't trace His hand
Trust His Heart

 

He alone is faithful and true
He alone knows what is best for you

 

God is too wise to be mistaken
God is too good to be unkind
So when you don't understand
When don't see His plan
When you can't trace His hand
Trust His Heart

 

 


Friday 9 September 2022

I Know You’re Busy, But……


I wanted to revisit a topic I wrote about recently. The subject of busyness. In my recent post, I mentioned a phrase I had read, “I’m not busy – I’m where I belong”.

Since writing that post, the subject of busyness has come up quite frequently, in podcasts, in sermons, in conversations etc.

I suppose it’s a pretty hot topic as we all live busy lives, and most of us are busy with some occupation or another. Whether it be full-time home-schooling, a career, volunteering, ministering in the church, or a hands-full young mother of toddlers. Whatever the case may be, we all seem to be running full steam ahead, leading very busy lives.

As I listened to a podcast yesterday, while I had some down time and a free moment to do some sewing (which is very rare for me nowadays), I heard one of the speakers mention that a friend had said to her, “I know you’re busy, but….”

And straight away I went ‘OUCH!’. Because it is something that frequently gets thrown my way. That sentence frequently comes up in conversation with others and directed towards me.

It made me stop and think about my availability and my approachableness.

Am I seen as too busy? Unapproachable? Disconnected?

Do others tend to keep me out of the loop or not invite me to get togethers because they think I’ll be too busy anyway? Or is it because they see me as disconnected and not really interested in the lives of others?

Whatever the reason, I don’t want it to be like that. I want to eradicate statements like that. I want to be available as much as possible. I want people to feel free to chat to me and sit down over coffee and share what is on their heart.

Over the past few years, I have come to realise the absolute necessity of community. Christian fellowship. Friendships and relationships that go beyond a Sunday morning greeting, a handshake and a comment about the weather.

Tonight, I will be speaking to our Ladies Bible Study on the subject of true Christian fellowship. I am so excited to share what God has shown me in his Word on this topic and the many verses where it is mentioned. I think we may often get it all wrong. (more on this topic in a future post)

We draw close to God when we abide in him, when we get into his Word, commune with him daily, love and obey him, but we also draw close to God when we draw close to his people.

We were made for connection. Our souls need community. We need each other. No matter how much you may think you can master it all on your own and no matter how independent you are, you need others. And others need you!

We need each other to be an encouragement in our walk with God. We need each other to challenge one another, to bear one another’s burdens. We need each other to lean on when times are tough, and to rejoice when joy is overflowing, and the blessings abound.

I was convicted by a sentence I heard in the podcast, and I had to stop and write it down to share with you and to have as a reminder to myself.

“If you are a righteous woman and you want to gather righteous women around you, it is not going to happen if you are not readily available to the hearts and minds of women around you”.

A very true statement. It won’t just happen automatically.

And so, I pray that God would help me to be available, to have wisdom in prioritizing and organizing my daily schedules, to His glory, and not neglecting the ones he has entrusted to my care, but granting me eyes to see who needs a word of comfort, a shoulder to cry on, a word of advice, or maybe just a smile, so that I can be approachable to those who need my friendship and love.

We, as Christians, are part of the body of Christ. He is the vine, we are the branches, and we need to stay connected not only with Christ, but with each other.

John 15:5 KJV - I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.

 

Connecting. Sharing. Learning. Exhorting. Comforting. Loving.

 

Proverbs 18:24 KJV - A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.